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If you could start from a blank page what would you choose to create?

One process, that is now available, is a simple practice called Running the Bars. This hands on practice allows release of the energy of accumulated thoughts and feelings that no longer serve us and which create obstacles, so allowing us to start from a blank page so to speak.

The practitioner gently touches bars of energy that run through and around your head. These areas store the electro-magnetic components of every thought, attitude, belief of a specific aspect of your life. eg Healing, Relationships, Money,  Control, Awareness, Creativity. There are 32 in all. Touch one bar and you clear the energy locked up there. After an hours session you feel very relaxed like after a lovely massage. But running the Bars is so much more. To quote Gary Douglas the founder of Access Consciousness,  “ You change the energy, you change how that part of your life shows up. What is the most simple and easy way to change energy? Get your Bars touched! When you do, something different can show up in your life with ease. “


At times of stress and trauma certain chemicals are excreted into the body.  This creates an imbalance and we tend to modify our actions and behaviors around this which often means it is impossible to return to a place of calm until the balance is restored.

Trauma release exercises activate your body’s natural response to trauma which is to tremor, allowing the nervous system to release the highly contained energetic charge in the body. TRE allows the specific muscle pattern evoked by trauma and stress to soften and relinquish any tension, restoring the body to a state of deep inner relaxation and comfort which often leads to physical and emotional relief from pain.

TRE has been taught to thousands by Dr Berceli. He has focused on the most severe end of the trauma spectrum such as war veterans and victims of natural disasters.  Introducing TRE to 33 countries over the past 25 years, Dr Berceli has seen countless benefits and incredible improvements in his clients.

What is TRE in short?

•    It involves a safe, simple to learn exercise that can be taught to groups or to individuals.
•    It does not require revisiting the trauma through talking.
•    It crosses culture and language barriers.
•    It does not require lengthy therapy.
•    It is relatively quick but differs from one person to another.
•    It activates neurogenic tremors that enable one to get rid of the chronic tension patterns, inducing deep relaxation of the muscle tissue.
•    It allows the individual to return to a calm and well-balanced state.
•    It also works for past trauma dating back to childhood and birth trauma.
•    It is a great self-help tool for daily stress, anxiety tension or trauma.

When the body has returned to its natural balanced state, clients can incorporate talk therapies if it is still required.

Dr Berceli points out that our toughest times can become a pathway to a more fulfilling and meaningful life.  If you are interested in finding out more about TRE then visit the website or give Pam a call on 082 774 1737 or email her at pamstone1@mac.com

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Sources: “Transcend your toughest times” by David Berceli PhD &  “TRE training” by Dr Melanie Salmon

TRE or Trauma Release Exercises is a revolutionary new technique to release deep chronic tension, caused from events of trauma or from moments of feeling overwhelmed.  Trauma release restores inner balance and a sense of peace and calm.

TRE has been designed and taught to thousands by Dr David Berceli. Extensive research was done by Dr Berceli, especially on war veterans suffering from post traumatic stress syndrome.  TRE helps the body to heal itself through a safe and transformative journey which is easy to get into and then maintain.

Just as the human body is designed to experience and endure traumatic episodes, it is also designed to recover from these experiences.   Trauma, which is any moment where we feel overwhelmed and can vary in intensity from person to person, is stored not only in our memories which affect our emotions, but also physically in our bodies – almost like a physical scar.  Every time we get a new ‘scar’, we modify our emotions and behaviour to accommodate this new development in our physical bodies.  These little ‘scars’ need to be physically worked out of the body in order for us to function to our full potential.

With the help of a facilitator who guides and deepens the process there are many benefits to TRE.  Improvements in the following disorders or issues have been noted:

  • Nervousness
  • Anxiety
  • Insomnia
  • Listlessness
  • Irritability
  • Depressed
  • Moods
  • Anger
  • Guilt
  • Headaches and migraines
  • Irritable Bowel Syndrome
  • Lower Back Pain
  • Muscular Pain
  • Addictions
  • Indecision

The benefits are endless and the process easy.  Our lives are touched by trauma every day and we don’t even realise it, TRE helps us get rid of the backlog of these events stored in our bodies and then helps us to maintain a sense of balance, moving forward.

If you are interested in finding out more on TRE, you can email me at pamstone1@mac.com or give me a call on 082 774 1737.

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Coping with Change

The world seems to be changing at an extraordinary pace. We get used to the way things are, and then they shift. That change can be unsettling; even positive change can throw us for a loop.

As soon as something nudges us out of our regular routine, or challenges our understanding of how the world works and where we fit into it, we’re likely to experience a deluge of feelings, including fear, anxiety, excitement, distraction or denial.

In turn, those feelings can manifest in behaviour. You may act out with aggressive or passive-aggressive communication. You may push yourself to overwork or take the opposite approach and procrastinate, avoiding what’s on your plate.

Your self-care may suffer. You may reach for unhealthy substances or behaviours, get less sleep, skip meals or overindulge. You might cut yourself off from others or spend time with people who have unhealthy habits.

The Impact

Stress from both positive and negative change can have immediate and long-term effects. Stress inhibits digestion and absorption of nutrients, impairs your body’s ability to ward off germs, can cause insomnia and worsen pre-existing health conditions. If you’re also engaging in unhealthy behaviours and poor self-care, you’re at an even higher risk for illness or injury.

Mental abilities can be affected, as well. When you’re preoccupied about the future, it’s much harder to concentrate and/or apply your brainpower to what’s in front of you.

Great leaders are admired for their serenity and confidence in the face of uncertainty. For many of us, though, at such times, serenity is far from our reach. Instead, emotions are close to the surface and can flare up at inopportune times. Whether you lash out, cry or pound on your desk, it’s uncomfortable to feel out of control.

Strategies for Coping with Change

Take care of your body. Eat well, sleep well, exercise to discharge stress and refrain from harmful habits, such as smoking, excessive drinking, or recreational drugs.

Take care of your mind. Stay in the present by practicing deep breathing and/or meditation. Challenge your negative thinking and keep things in perspective.

Express your emotions in healthy ways. Share them with people you trust. Vent negative feelings by pounding on a pillow.

Treat others well. Strengthen your good relationships so you can draw on their support, and work at your challenging relationships so they don’t add to your stress.

Be proactive. Prepare the best you can for the changes that might come, but then accept the reality of the moment. Think back to other challenges you’ve come through and remind yourself that everything will work out okay this time, too.

Into every life change will come, but its lasting impact doesn’t have to be harmful. Change also has a way of opening new and rewarding doors. Bottom line, let change be the catalyst for better self-care, which will feed you in all times, stable and uncertain.

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Midlife is a lot like being a teenager again—only with more wisdom. We may not stay out all night and run with a wild crowd, but many in their 40s and 50s experience the same restlessness and yearning for change. We’re still asking questions about what we want to be when we grow up, but the questions are deeper, more profound. This time we won’t settle for less than what makes us truly happy.

This is especially true for the work we do. Yes, we want to pay the bills, support a family, save for old age. But, many of us now want our work to be meaningful and make a difference. We ask ourselves if not now, then when? What better time to act on those unfulfilled dreams? Work is one of the most profound ways we live our true selves, and now is the time to start doing that.

Yet, it can seem as if there’s a chasm between the knowing and the doing. We know something’s not right with our job or career path, but we tell ourselves to live with it. We set goals but feel too overwhelmed with daily life to try something new. We worry that to make a change to follow a dream would be selfish, especially if it means a loss of income, or upsets our family and friends.

In fact, every person living out his or her dreams gives a gift to the world—a gift because it inspires others to do the same.

“We often hesitate to follow our hearts, to grow, because of perceived barriers,” writes Carole Kanchier in Dare to Change Your Job—and Your Life.

Breaking Down the Barriers

Fear. We think “I’m too old to change. If I switch jobs now, I’ll have to start over at the bottom. What if I fail, then what?” Fear is normal, and it’s important to acknowledge it. There are numerous tactics to help you through the fear. The most powerful may be looking to others who’ve gone through life/career changes and to speak your mind and gain helpful advice and motivation.

Confusion. Many of us are clearer about what we don’t want than what we actually do want. We may have lived out others’ expectations of us for so long we’re not even sure what actually makes us happy. Or we’re not certain how to turn our many talents and skills into meaningful work.

Coaches are an excellent resource to help you ask the right questions to sharpen your focus and goals. They can guide you to imagine and create real work that isn’t just a job, but a whole new life.

Whether it’s a new career or small shifts in how you work, making a change in midlife can bring new energy and joy for life. Like being a teenager again—only better.

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Imagine the time and energy it might have taken someone who procrastinates to:

  1. think about doing the article,
  2. put it on a list of “to dos,”
  3. talk about doing it,
  4. promise himself he will start it tomorrow,
  5. promise himself he will definitely start it tomorrow,
  6. promise…well, you get the point.

As the deadline for an article draws near (it’s midnight the night before the article is due), imagine the stress a writer must feel as he brews a pot of coffee and sets himself up for a couple of hours to research the topic, organize the information, create an outline, come up with a dynamite opening line, write the article, rewrite the article, rewrite it again, print it out and rewrite it one more time. And, of course, the whole time he’s beating himself up for waiting so long to start and telling himself he’s no good at this job anyway and the article will be a bust.

Procrastination rears its head any time we have to make a big decision, start a project or do something we don’t really want to do.  Our job is to recognise when we are procrastinating and take the steps towards doing that thing which we have set out to avoid.

To recognise procrastination we have to be familiar with the process which leads us to avoiding those things which we need to do.  Look out for the following signs:

  • Delay
  • Broken promises and unfulfilled expectations
  • Feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem
  • Worry
  • Fear
  • Stress
  • Overwork and probably not as good an end product as the writer would have produced if he’d tackled the job in a timely, reasonable, professional manner.

Procrastination isn’t good for anyone, anytime. So why do so many do it? Not just around such matters as filing income tax and completing holiday shopping, but with everyday tasks such as cleaning off the desk or straightening up the garage or starting a project at work.

Tackling Procrastination:

  • Set goals. Decide what you want and what needs to happen to get it. Be specific. Create a realistic timetable.
  • Commit – make a contract with yourself. Tell a friend or co-worker or family member your plan. Ask for help when you need it.
  • Prioritize. Make a list of things that need to be done in order of their importance.
  • Get organized – Have the right tools and equipment to do the job. Make lists and keep a schedule – BUT don’t let the task of creating structure delay you even further
  • Think small – don’t let the size of the project overwhelm you – start small and stay focused on what you are doing at that moment.
  • Break tasks into parts. The “Swiss cheese” approach to getting any major project completed is to break it apart and work on one piece at a time. Reward yourself when you complete one step.
  • Use positive self-talk.
  • Replace excuses with rational, realistic thinking.
  • Realize there is no such thing as perfection – Begin the thing knowing it can never be done perfectly. You’ll do your best. You always do.
  • Reward yourself,  often and generously for accomplishing the smallest of tasks. Celebrate. Pat yourself on the back. Enjoy your accomplishment.

Like many other self-defeating behaviours, procrastination can be overcome.

The time to start is now!Procrastinate

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Most of us have our own way of making decisions. We may carefully consider the pros and cons, consult with experts, ask our mothers. Here are 10 more unusual methods to try. Which ones could you employ?

  1. Flip a coin. Then notice your first reaction. If it lands on the “wrong” choice, you’ll feel disappointment.
  2. Role-play. Let each person or thing represent a different aspect of the decision. What does each perspective have to say?
  3. Meditate. When you quiet your mind, the answer may bubble up easily.
  4. Drawing or collage. Consider each option pictorially. Your most attractive option may become obvious.
  5. Use a dartboard. Like with flipping a coin, notice how you feel when the dart hits its mark.
  6. Sleep on it. Still one of the most effective ways to find clarity.
  7. Dream incubation. Write out the issue before going to bed. When you awake, consider any dream to be an answer to your query—or the question behind the question.
  8. Dance each option. Which feels better in your body? Which flows through you more fluidly?
  9. Sing. Make up a song about the decision. You may be surprised by what comes out of your mouth.
  10. Try tarot cards or the i-ching. Consider these as psychological tools for finding out how you really feel and think.

Decision Making

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